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No matter what the nagging inner voices say, you are good enough. You never know when a special someone will step through it, baggage and all. Seek out some support groups for people in similar predicaments and you will see that your burdens are far from unique.īe sure to be outward-looking and keep the door open. Allowing yourself to believe that your current circumstances preclude love is likely to be self-fulfilling. You are in the driver’s seat here, responsible for your own destiny. Let’s face it, there are very few mature adults out there without one similar burden or another. Sure, these are all burdensome problems, but they don’t make you undeserving of love. Maybe you are living with and caring for an elderly relative. Maybe you have a child or children and a troubled relationship with your former partner which has turned co-parenting into a minefield. Maybe you are saddled with debts or financial problems from your past, due to bad luck or poor decisions. This, together with the other great healer – time – will allow you to open your heart to someone who will love you and your baggage unconditionally.īut what if your baggage is more physical than emotional?

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If that avenue proves unhelpful, then consider spending time with a professional therapist to help you move on. Talk about your emotional burdens with close friends or family. Healing from a significant heartbreak is a normal process and can be a lengthy one if the former love was deep. It is by making mistakes that we learn, grow, and develop as humans, so you are most likely a better, more rounded person with the benefit of your past experiences.Ĭut yourself some slack and don’t write yourself off as a bad person who is unworthy of love. It may have been a particular set of life circumstances, or a perfect storm of ill-matched personalities, which triggered the hurtful actions which you now regret. That does not mean that you can’t mend your ways and find true love, but you’ll have to forgive yourself first, as well as committing yourself not to make the same mistakes all over again. Perhaps you behaved very badly, let someone down, or hurt them deeply. When the cloud you’ve lived under for the longest time is lifted, you’ll be able to embrace a future where you are ready to love and be loved.Īnother reason you may feel you are a bad person is down to your history in previous relationships. However, talking therapies, either with trusted friends or a professional, can help to reveal where this erroneous self-belief came from.

Such negative programming is often so deeply engrained that it’s not easily reversed. The fact that you have been brainwashed into believing that you are unworthy of love is something which needs to be seen for what it is and turned on its ugly head. In reality, you are an individual who is as deserving of love as anyone else. Someone in a position of influence, be they parent, teacher, lover, sibling, has told you this untruth, which is actually part of their coercive control technique or power play. The fact is you’re more likely to be the victim here than the perpetrator. Okay, so the first question that needs answering here is: ‘Who says you are a bad person?’ I don’t deserve love because I’m a bad person – FALSE If you’re looking for ways to make yourself more attractive, rather than the superficial stuff, one of the things that is most attractive traits is actually the ability to listen, to be truly interested in what others have to say.īeing a good and animated conversationalist is guaranteed to bring dividends that hiding yourself away because you mistakenly believe you aren’t pretty enough never can.Ģ. What it means, literally, is having the ability to attract others and it’s never just superficial looks that achieve that. The word attractive doesn’t even have anything to do with the way you look. There are people out there who may look outwardly perfect but believe that they are ‘ugly’ due to flaws that are invisible to everyone else.Īnd then there are those who would grace any beauty magazine cover but don’t have a brain in their heads or are incapable of loving any other being than their beautiful selves. You’ll see that there are people of every shape and size people of all different colors people with a whole range of different facial features people who are differently able to do things. Take a look around you I mean a really close look and not just at the ones who rate as ‘pretty’ in our (somewhat unrealistic) culture. Let’s get something out there right away: No matter what you may believe, you are 100% not too unattractive to be loved. I don’t deserve love because I’m not attractive – FALSE

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